As I See It Part I

Hey there,

Definitely a lot to think about there. I have to reiterate, though, that she needs to stop worrying about what mom and dad think about this, or anything else, for that matter. (Ha!! Listen to me! If that ain't the kettle talking, I don't know what is.) But really, if this is all about honesty and starting over with a clean slate, then leaving half the skeletons in the closet isn't going to accomplish much. Especially, (speaking from experience) when A and J reachs adulthood and learn the truth in some roundabout way, which will happen.

I don't blame you for being angry about having it all dumped on you and I think it's particulary crappy to dump it on L and then self-invite to Newport! I almost thought that was funny, if it weren't so absurd. (Hey, am I angry too? For you and L, I think so.) That's just unfair and selfish and - oh wait - from what I understand, normal. I mean, I don't mean to discount your frustration but honestly, she (M) must be freaking out on some level - at least trying to make sure the kids don't find out before she decides whether or not to tell them, or decides what to do about the whole thing. In that effort, I guess she has to keep everything as normal as possible, not raise any questions about "why aren't we going to Aunt L's this summer?"

~~~ I have to take a break here...I started to write with less time than I thought I had. K and R are cooking us prime rib tonight and it's time to go, already. I'll write more in the morning (I'm being realistic enough not to say "when I get home" ~~~