Ok, that's a new word for me. I looked it up, but....
I imagine not being settled into school yet is frustrating, but your weather is still nice, no? That would be hard. If it were raining and cold, your body might be adjusting to the schedule change better. At least for me, I know that's true. It'll click eventually...are you still having problems sleeping/being in pain at night?
I'm so glad it's Monday and there is NOTHING on my schedule for today. We went camping this weekend with a few couples from John's office whom I had never met, save for one I'm not crazy about in the first place. Turned out to be a very fun group and I had a great time. We had awesome weather, and the only kids there were mine (JJ and a friend) and one other 9 year old girl who pretty much kept to herself, so we did a lot of sitting around the fire, drinking and relaxing. We had kayaks and mopeds, so the kids were in heaven (check out my pictures on fb if you want). We got home yesterday mid-afternoon, and by the time we were done cleaning the trailer and all that, we ended up ordering in Chinese and going to bed by 9:00. I hadn't been looking forward to the trip at all, but now I'm so glad I went!
M's loving his new school and is really thriving in the more adult environment. He cut his hair very short and wears semi-dress clothes to school every day - he's cracking me up! I asked him if that's how all the students dress and he said no, he just felt like he needed to be "more professional". He's a paradox, that one.
JJ's playing baseball this fall, actually. And so far, we just have practice every day until 5:00; no games for two more weeks. Another mom and I trade off pickups after practice, so that's helpful. For whatever reason, our middle school football season isn't until the spring here, so we go baseball, wrestling, basketball, football. Plus, he's in choir and planning to join the Advanced Choir in November, so we'll for sure be busy. I'm good - I'd rather he be involved in that, even if he's not a straight A student, than to hate all things school related, like his brother did.
The biggest news to report is the new installment of Bro J and CC Crazy...but I won't bore you with details. Let's see how well I can do this RD version:
Mid-week last week: Their therapist told them that Bro should move out for awhile, but CC told the therapist that's not an option, he must stay with her at all costs. Bro tried to move out, but CC found out about the affair with KN. Since then she's been insane - and I mean in a not-so-funny-kind-of-scary way. He stayed here all weekend with M while we were gone; she came to my house and went nuts all over M Friday night, until he (M) had to make her leave and my J had to call the cops (from camping!) to put her on the radar. She called my parents and told them a pack of lies (in addition to the truth about the affair). She told her kids all about it, too, (details and all) then kept them up all night stirring them into a frenzy about how daddy doesn't love them anymore. She pushed him so far he ripped his phones and the computer out of the walls in his house to stop her from posting all his emails to KN on fb and sending them to my parents, his boss, etc. Then she threatened to have him arrested for assault (although he didn't touch her). He went home yesterday I guess to get his stuff and make a plan to leave, but I haven't heard from him since Saturday night. Who knows what will happen next?
My parents are doing better today, but they're worried about him (and so angry at him for being so stupid and spineless in the first place). They're worried about the grand kids (like we all are) but she's so out of control that Bro says he can't even have a calm conversation with her, not matter how hard he tries. He's so mired in his lack of control - built up over the years of her dominance and his enabling - that he doesn't even think straight half the time.
I feel awful for my parents, watching their kid train wreck his life. But they know it's not about them and they're hanging in there. I think, like me, they want to take over and do things for him, because he's so stupid, but of course none of us can do that. I'm kind of glad they're so far away; although we talk a couple times a day, they're not getting too involved.
I'm doing a pretty good job of staying out of it, too, which I'm sure you can imagine is hard for me. Fortunately, she wouldn't dare call me, so I haven't had to engage her at all. And J will take care of her if she harasses our family any more. I hope Bro can hold onto this great new job, stay sane, and make the right moves...I pray for him a lot. Not because I feel sorry for him, but because I'm just not sure he gets it yet. He's still falling into all of her traps and buying into all of her bullshit. He feels sorry for her, because she has no friends or family (literally) but doesn't see that she has created that life for herself.
Bottom line: He's an idiot, she's f*#@ing crazy. You know, I watch a lot of crime drama, but the one continuous thought in my head is always "It's nice that this shit doesn't happen in real life." Um, wrong.
ANYWAY...I didn't do very well with the short version, did I? I was so glad I was camping this weekend and wasn't here, because I probably would have gotten all involved where I shouldn't have. I was so proud of my son for the way he handled her; of course, at 17, he's just kind of amused by the whole thing.
I'd love to catch up on the phone this week, and promise not to talk only about this :)
Love you,
A
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